Marriage is bliss, and there’s nothing more special or beautiful than building a lasting union with someone you love. But after a while, everyday routine can become grating, work can be grueling, and we get robbed of the opportunities we once had to fan the flames of the relationship. So how can we reignite the spark that seemed to burn so brightly at the start of the marriage? Read more
Is there a secret recipe for happy and successful marriage or it’s like singing – you can it or not? To make one of those cute old couples strolling hand in the park, follow as many of the following tips for a successful marriage? Read more
Today, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one cause or another. The commitment seems scary and marriage takes time and hard work. When your marriage is faced with challenges, hardships, loss of a family member, or a sick child, never give up. Decide now to love your partner and stick it out. In all marriages, nothing is perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome. Read more
Are you considering settling down with your better half and building a life together? Whether you’re at the age where a lot of your friends seem to be tying the knot, or you’re considering your second (or third or fourth) marriage, how do you know it’s the right decision? Here are five signs that you are truly ready to marry your partner and not just giving in to peer pressure.
1. You’re planning a marriage – not a wedding
Of course you’re excited about the wedding itself. It’s a big fun party that all your friends and family come to. Depending on your preferences, there may be music, flowers, food, gifts, perhaps even a theme. You may be furiously planning your rehearsal dinner, venue, decorations, cake, welcome bags for guests, and all the other fun details of planning a wedding. But is this why you’re excited about getting married? Remember that, while your wedding will last a few hours, your marriage will last for the rest of your life. Plan for that part first, and if you’re still all in, then feel free to start planning the party.
2. You know why you want to get married
People get married for a lot of different reasons. Some people are excited about having a big wedding. Some just feel it’s what they “should” do and want to be able to say they’re married. Some feel lonely or otherwise unhappy and feel that marriage is a solution. Some are pressured by their partners; others find themselves unexpectedly expecting. In and of themselves, these are terrible reasons to get married. Ask yourself what benefits you will get from marrying your partner as opposed to continuing your relationship the way it is now. Make sure that you and your partner trust each other, love spending time together, know each other very well, have similar goals, and know how to fight fair before saying yes.
3. You know and trust your partner deeply
As mentioned, it’s essential that you know and trust the person you’re considering marrying on a deep level. It’s not about how long you’ve been together. Just because you’ve been dating someone for five years doesn’t necessarily mean that you know them through and through. Before you get married, you should know your partner’s past as well as their hopes, dreams, and goals; likewise, they should know yours. Make sure that you know their shortcomings and still love them. (Spoiler alert: if you think your partner is perfect, then you don’t know them well enough to marry them.) You should also trust your partner completely. If you don’t, there’s work to do before you get hitched.
4. You have no interest in changing your partner
No one is perfect, and again, if you think your partner is, then something’s wrong. However, you should not only know them very well but also love them exactly as they are now. Marrying someone hoping that they will change is a huge mistake. Don’t think for a second that marriage will change them – it won’t. If anything, marriage is likely to exacerbate any existing issues in your relationship, not fix them. A wedding will not heal a rift, nor will it magically make your partner want to have kids, exercise more, do more housework, or get a better job – no matter what they say. Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with the person you’re with just as they are now? If so, you may be ready for wedded bliss.
5. Your friends and family like your partner
When you first fall in love with someone, it’s easy to think that nothing else matters in the world. Once you make a lifelong commitment, though, you’ll quickly find that everything matters. This is a tricky one because, after all, you’re the one dating your partner, so why does it matter who likes or dislikes them besides you? However, a small rift can and will affect your life and relationship over the years. If the people you know and love don’t like your partner, where is your support system? Might you end up alienated or not invited to social events? Sure, you know yourself best – but your family and friends know you pretty well, too, so if they’re saying that you’re making a mistake, at least consider their views.
Marriages can be caught up in that dreaded vortex of work, family, stress and more work. You look yourself in the mirror and you feel as if you don’t know yourself anymore. Read more
“Can you believe it?”
“She’s so not ready.”
“But, she’s got so much life to live!”
“She’s like… barely old enough to drink.”
“Oh honey, I wish I would have waited.”
“There’s no rush, dear.” Read more
She looks at you and you quickly turn away. You catch a glimpse and your heart skips a beat. You feel something that you’ve only felt a lifetime ago. The excitement makes you feel cold yet with a warm but fuzzy feeling inside. When your fingers touch, you feel something that’s electric. Read more
Pledge to make 2014 a better year for you and your relationship. Studies show that one of the best predictions for happiness is being satisfied in our romantic relationship. This is even more important than our high stress job, income or education. Here is some tips on how to achieve this: Read more
When I mention that I have been married for almost thirty-six years to the same man, my words are often met with exclamations of shock and/or a round of applause. It is simply not that common to see a marriage that makes it beyond the first ten or fifteen years intact. Read more
It’s a tricky subject to which some women may feel they cannot be open, honest, or discuss with others. Pornography is, in my opinion, seen as a black and white topic to which people will be for or against. I’m sure there are some who do not have any real particular opinion of it; those who love pornography in its various forms will love it. Those who have been wounded by the media will probably dislike or hate it. Read more